Whether you have followed this blog since the beginning or joined somewhere along the journey, you may find its title - "Spoonspirations" - a little odd. Yes, I love to bake and wooden spoons are my 'sought-after' item when I travel. But, it is the original wooden spoon find that started it all back in 2009.
In 2009, I took my first big solo international adventure to Prague leading in to the International Leadership Association Conference. A pre-conference "world cafe" event had be navigating public transportation to a community school on the outskirts of the city to participate in conversations about global issues and what we could collectively do to make a positive impact. When my tram stop came, I stepped off to look for the anticipated school representative to help navigate from the stop to the school. To my surprise, there was no one waiting; after a few minutes of contemplating options and the event start time approaching, I set off to find the school. I found a delightful man walking out of his home and greeted him to ask for directions. And quickly discovered he spoke no English (which match my language skills to him). Lesson learned: a smile and some gestures go a long way across cultural barriers. He pointed in me in a direction, which ended up being the way toward the school. I made it to the school (a little late) and engaged in conversations on issues and solutions connected to the need for leadership and action. Those conversations were a pivotal point in my career trajectory; though leadership education was a passion, "global" as part of leadership education was affirmed.
At that conference, I also had breakfast with Dr. Carter - a faculty member at the University of Florida. As a nearly done Masters student, I laid out my thoughts to her on future directions - Ph.D programs I was considering and potential jobs. I am forever grateful for her lending an ear that morning and offering advice for my continued thinking on the matter.
Clearly a memorable conference...of which in searching for a souvenir to bring home in my minimalist packing, I found a wooden spoon! A perfect thing to bring home as a pragmatic individual who loves to cook and bake. It became a reminder every time I baked of the connections I made on that adventure. And then as I traveled more, it became a symbolic item that represents the connections I make as I travel (and here at home for those close-knit friends who bring me back spoons from their travels and gather at my table to share).
About 6-8 months after that Prague conference, I received a message from Dr. Carter about a new position at UF to coordinate the CALS Leadership Institute and Teaching Resource Center programs in the College of Agricultural and Life Sciences. A month or so later...I was moving to Gainesville, FL knowing just a few folks at the university through connections in professional associations. I figured I would work a couple of years, then figure out what doctoral program I wanted to do and see where life would go from there. (I actually just laughed a little as I typed that.)
Fast forward a little over 8 years...still here in Gainesville at UF (with the addition of a UF degree along the way). I love my job...the students and faculty I get to teach and serve, the CALS family I get to work with...I love the Gainesville community and especially my Westside family. So, when the questions started coming (as they naturally do after you complete a PhD) about "What's next?"...I kept saying I don't know. I knew the Lord had me in a season of waiting and rest, but was not sure what the next steps would be. I dreaded the thought of leaving UF, especially considering my work with our CALS LI program reflected so many of my passions in one gig. But, I knew I had to consider what that next step would be in order to recognize and act upon the opportunity when the time came. The next question was typically, "What is your ideal job?" My answer was usually along the lines of: "If I could keep the CALS Leadership Institute and add additional teaching responsibilities in AEC, I would be thrilled." And that's what I've been praying for since before I finished my Ph.D.
"Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen." - Ephesians 3:20-21
Y'all...I am just beside myself! A couple of months ago, that dream job description was posted...at UF! Never did I imagine that those prayers would be answered in a way that would enable me to stay. I am thrilled to share that my next career chapter will be right here at UF. As of January 2, 2019, I will be a new faculty member in the Department of Agricultural Education and Communication with a 100% Teaching appointment as Lecturer of Global Agricultural Leadership. This position entails continued coordination of the CALS Leadership Institute and the teaching connected with the program, as well as coordination and teaching effort for the Global Leadership and Change Certificate (and a few other duties). To top it all off, I had the opportunity to give a seminar during the interview process...where I shared my spoon story!
I am beyond excited to stay at UF and for the opportunity to join the CALS AEC family as a faculty member! Here's to new opportunities and challenges for growth in the new year! To all those who have prayed with me for this opportunity - thank you! Continued prayers always welcomed as this new adventure begins! #Grateful #Thankful #Blessed
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Monday, December 17, 2018
Tuesday, September 22, 2015
Dissertating...
SO, what's your paper (dissertation) about? Ah...the inevitable question for all who pursue that final degree in higher education. Being in the proposal writing process, as I have learned, means that the answer to this question sort of evolves; so, if you asked me that question a few months ago...the answer has changed a little by now. It changes because you find other research that helps narrow your topic of interest. It changes because you find THAT article...the one that supports your ideas and encourages you to trudge forward with renewed interest, knowing that there is at least one other person in this world who thinks such research is needed. And, it changes because you just keep digging into the 'why am I doing this?' and 'how can this be most useful to others?' which makes all of the hazy direction become clear. These changes are good, even if they mean re-doing some of the work you already did once before. It's a process...trust the process (or so that's the saying I remember from Leadershape from a 'few' years back).
In regards to 'dissertating', this week is pretty exciting for me. Two reasons:
1. I'm actually making some good progress on my proposal. It may be at the expense of being able to spend more time with friends, but it is needed progress to meet my goal of completing my proposal and pulling my committee together for the first time later this fall. I'm learning it is indeed a delicate balance of making time to write when I actually write well and still maintaining some sort of balance in taking care of myself.
2. This week marks the United Nations Sustainable Development Summit, where the new Sustainable Development Goals are to be adopted and officially put into motion. 17 Goals have been outlined with markers for progressive achievement through 2030. These replace the Millennium Development Goals that had goals leading up to 2015. These goals are a foundation of the research I am doing and desire to do...which essentially means you can probably find me watching the streaming of the UN meeting online come Friday (anyone else out there to provide some solidarity with this leadership and international development 'nerd'?) :)
With those two reasons in mind...I think I have figured out the basic description of my research:
I desire to study leaders in NGOs to understand their leadership development process that has prepared them to effectively lead their organization in helping to achieve sustainable development through international agriculture.
Or, in "fancy" research terms: I propose to explore the development of leadership efficacy in NGO leaders with focus on international agricultural development through a phenomenological study.
I'm excited because of the base this provides for future research, its application for leadership development and training, and its combination of my passions - leadership development and "missions." And, as I head into this being the focus of the next two years of my life to complete a dissertation (pending committee approval, of course), I'm glad that it makes me excited to dig in and explore. Thus, you are hereby forewarned of my excitement related to my topic of choice ; however, you can certainly tell me to just give the quick overview/update and spare yourself my giddy description of something you may just have to smile and nod at :). Now, on to a meeting about said dissertation proposal...
In regards to 'dissertating', this week is pretty exciting for me. Two reasons:
1. I'm actually making some good progress on my proposal. It may be at the expense of being able to spend more time with friends, but it is needed progress to meet my goal of completing my proposal and pulling my committee together for the first time later this fall. I'm learning it is indeed a delicate balance of making time to write when I actually write well and still maintaining some sort of balance in taking care of myself.
2. This week marks the United Nations Sustainable Development Summit, where the new Sustainable Development Goals are to be adopted and officially put into motion. 17 Goals have been outlined with markers for progressive achievement through 2030. These replace the Millennium Development Goals that had goals leading up to 2015. These goals are a foundation of the research I am doing and desire to do...which essentially means you can probably find me watching the streaming of the UN meeting online come Friday (anyone else out there to provide some solidarity with this leadership and international development 'nerd'?) :)
With those two reasons in mind...I think I have figured out the basic description of my research:
I desire to study leaders in NGOs to understand their leadership development process that has prepared them to effectively lead their organization in helping to achieve sustainable development through international agriculture.
Or, in "fancy" research terms: I propose to explore the development of leadership efficacy in NGO leaders with focus on international agricultural development through a phenomenological study.
I'm excited because of the base this provides for future research, its application for leadership development and training, and its combination of my passions - leadership development and "missions." And, as I head into this being the focus of the next two years of my life to complete a dissertation (pending committee approval, of course), I'm glad that it makes me excited to dig in and explore. Thus, you are hereby forewarned of my excitement related to my topic of choice ; however, you can certainly tell me to just give the quick overview/update and spare yourself my giddy description of something you may just have to smile and nod at :). Now, on to a meeting about said dissertation proposal...
Thursday, May 15, 2014
Responsible to empty...
Spring semester (check)...ALE Site Visit (check)...Commencement (check)...Leadercast (check)... whew!...the past month has been all sorts of crazy! I'm sitting here enjoying the simple fact that I have taken a couple of days to relax before diving in to the summer semester full force. It has been a welcomed pause for processing and a little planning for the month to come (which is really like two months of work/school in one). I suppose it has been a bit of calm between the "storms" of chaotic schedules.
Although I've heard a lot of great messages lately, I'll focus in on Leadercast because I'm flipping through the program book and photos of the event over my lunch today. In the grand scheme of the event, there are many great take-aways; however, when you're overseeing the run of show for the event, you tend to be more concerned about what's coming next or any issues rather than the content of the speaker at hand. Yet, in the midst of trying to figure out a feed issue and the chat room being down, I was able to hear a little snip-it of Andy Stanley's talk. In that short window, I heard two important things:
1. It's not my responsibility to fill their cup, just to empty mine.
2. The value of a life is always measured in terms of how much of it was given away.
Thoughts on these two statements:
1. It's not my responsibility to fill their cup, just to empty mine.
This one hit home for me, to the point that it was what grabbed my attention while I was working on getting the chat room support back up; I stopped and jotted it down before pausing to listen to the contextual description he was giving. As one who typically assumes responsibility in various situations, this was a refreshing reminder that I truly can only accept responsibility for what I have control over. I cannot force someone to see from a new perspective or understand the importance of cultural context, but I can certainly ensure that I share my experiences and pour out what I do know and think would be beneficial for someone/a situation. To grasp on to this means less frustration with wondering if students 'get' the why behind things and more of me simply sharing the content that informs my passions of leadership development and intercultural competence. I also enjoyed his caveat of 'you're smarter than you think you are...share!'...how often do we hesitate to share because we assume others may already know something or because we don't have the full picture/all the answers? I find it oddly encouraging when leaders are transparent about their areas of expertise, knowledge gaps, and how they're trying to grow.
2. The value of a life is always measured in terms of how much of it was given away.
When we focus on self, there are limitations to and perceptions of personal value; yet, when the focus is on pouring yourself out (emptying your cup), limitations and perceptions subside and living a value-added life leads to ripples of your impact continuing beyond your own sight! How powerful, humbling, and inspiring it is to see a little bit of your heartfelt service impact someone else!
Great reminders from such a gifted communicator! Now, back to that planning thing :)!
"Do what you do well, and do it strategically for the Kingdom."
Although I've heard a lot of great messages lately, I'll focus in on Leadercast because I'm flipping through the program book and photos of the event over my lunch today. In the grand scheme of the event, there are many great take-aways; however, when you're overseeing the run of show for the event, you tend to be more concerned about what's coming next or any issues rather than the content of the speaker at hand. Yet, in the midst of trying to figure out a feed issue and the chat room being down, I was able to hear a little snip-it of Andy Stanley's talk. In that short window, I heard two important things:
1. It's not my responsibility to fill their cup, just to empty mine.
2. The value of a life is always measured in terms of how much of it was given away.
Thoughts on these two statements:
1. It's not my responsibility to fill their cup, just to empty mine.
This one hit home for me, to the point that it was what grabbed my attention while I was working on getting the chat room support back up; I stopped and jotted it down before pausing to listen to the contextual description he was giving. As one who typically assumes responsibility in various situations, this was a refreshing reminder that I truly can only accept responsibility for what I have control over. I cannot force someone to see from a new perspective or understand the importance of cultural context, but I can certainly ensure that I share my experiences and pour out what I do know and think would be beneficial for someone/a situation. To grasp on to this means less frustration with wondering if students 'get' the why behind things and more of me simply sharing the content that informs my passions of leadership development and intercultural competence. I also enjoyed his caveat of 'you're smarter than you think you are...share!'...how often do we hesitate to share because we assume others may already know something or because we don't have the full picture/all the answers? I find it oddly encouraging when leaders are transparent about their areas of expertise, knowledge gaps, and how they're trying to grow.
2. The value of a life is always measured in terms of how much of it was given away.
When we focus on self, there are limitations to and perceptions of personal value; yet, when the focus is on pouring yourself out (emptying your cup), limitations and perceptions subside and living a value-added life leads to ripples of your impact continuing beyond your own sight! How powerful, humbling, and inspiring it is to see a little bit of your heartfelt service impact someone else!
Great reminders from such a gifted communicator! Now, back to that planning thing :)!
"Do what you do well, and do it strategically for the Kingdom."
Saturday, April 19, 2014
One Resonating Question
The past couple of weeks have brought some amazing opportunities for growth...God's timing never ceases to amaze me; He knows exactly what I need to hear, when I need to hear it. Although challenging, such messages are also answers to prayers and great encouragement to my heart in the midst of seemingly constant 'business'. Especially in times when I feel stuck in between what my heart desires to do and fulfilling commitments to routine tasks, these messages also provide me with a gut check of how I could and should be living and growing through each and every day.
Opportunity 1: Last weekend, I was blessed to join a group from church for dinner; this group included a sweet couple that spent numerous years on the mission field and hold such profound wisdom from life's experiences. I was humbled to sit around the table in a beautiful home of another couple who welcomed a few extra guests that evening, a few whom I highly respect and thank the Lord for placing in my life, as well as a couple of new folks whom I admire for their service within the church. I have been praying for God to open up opportunities to soak in wisdom from others who have served in ministry and missions; thus, an answered prayer and incredible blessing to share an evening with this group! Out of the entire evening, however, there was one statement, one question that penetrated to my core with conviction and has continued to resonate as I look at my daily life. This nugget of wisdom came from the sweet couple I first mentioned: "If you are not boldly sharing the Gospel and reaching the lost where God has you now, how do you expect Him to use you on the mission field 1,000+ miles away?" Let that sink in.
What excuses am I making? What limitations am I placing on myself from perceived barriers to share? How am I actively challenging myself to reach those in my sphere of influence here?
God's Word commands us to go locally and globally; He has each of us right where He desires us to make an impact for His Kingdom both now and wherever He leads us next!
Opportunity 2: Last night, I participated in Secret Church - an intensive Bible study to help bring awareness to those who go boldly in the midst of persecution around the world. Truly, we take so much for granted in America regarding the access to Christian resources and the freedom to meet with fellow followers of Christ. The focus of the evening was "The Cross and Everyday Life". Given my question from opportunity #1 and tug-of-war in the midst of the end of the semester business, this intense and focused time could not have come at a better time. David Platt, the pastor who leads this time of teaching, adequately describes the 6+ hours as trying to drink from a fire hydrant, advising to try to keep up and process later. To say the least, I have a good bit of processing left to do, but there was a key point from the first teaching segment that connected with this resonating question. And, really, I'm still trying to wrap my mind completely around this point.
His point (one of many...) was that so often when we think of the cross and our salvation, we focus on the concept of Christ dying for our sins...with emphasis on ourselves. But, the cross is not ultimately about me...it's all about the uniquely qualified and sinless sacrifice that was the full expression of God's character and value, the obedience of Christ to God to die a substitutionary death so that I/we can experience and access God for all eternity. Thus, I am the beneficiary of Christ's obedience to God; yes, He took my place and His blood covers my sin...but, He didn't do it for me, He did it in obedience so that His name could be glorified.
My finite mind cannot grasp on to the full magnitude of this foundational act of obedience. Yet, as I/we are called to be Christlike...does this not then imply such full and radical obedience to the commands He has given me/us through His Word? As this first teaching segment closed, we heard from those who serve in highly persecuted areas...where Christianity goes against the laws of the country. One thing the man said was that it is simple...we need to go back to THE Book...God's Word to instruct our daily living.
So, connecting these two questions/concepts...strategic and intentional impact for the Kingdom is a result of understanding a fraction of what the cross means to our daily lives reflecting Christlike obedience to the instructions given to me/us in His Word.
This is no light matter...it is one to be covered in prayer daily, to seek His Word with a hunger and desire to hide it in my/your heart, and to ask God to guide us step by step into radical obedience of His commands in the normal routines of everyday life.
(Thankfully, the remaining sessions focused in on the 'how'...so, much to process for application.)
Opportunity 1: Last weekend, I was blessed to join a group from church for dinner; this group included a sweet couple that spent numerous years on the mission field and hold such profound wisdom from life's experiences. I was humbled to sit around the table in a beautiful home of another couple who welcomed a few extra guests that evening, a few whom I highly respect and thank the Lord for placing in my life, as well as a couple of new folks whom I admire for their service within the church. I have been praying for God to open up opportunities to soak in wisdom from others who have served in ministry and missions; thus, an answered prayer and incredible blessing to share an evening with this group! Out of the entire evening, however, there was one statement, one question that penetrated to my core with conviction and has continued to resonate as I look at my daily life. This nugget of wisdom came from the sweet couple I first mentioned: "If you are not boldly sharing the Gospel and reaching the lost where God has you now, how do you expect Him to use you on the mission field 1,000+ miles away?" Let that sink in.
What excuses am I making? What limitations am I placing on myself from perceived barriers to share? How am I actively challenging myself to reach those in my sphere of influence here?
God's Word commands us to go locally and globally; He has each of us right where He desires us to make an impact for His Kingdom both now and wherever He leads us next!
Opportunity 2: Last night, I participated in Secret Church - an intensive Bible study to help bring awareness to those who go boldly in the midst of persecution around the world. Truly, we take so much for granted in America regarding the access to Christian resources and the freedom to meet with fellow followers of Christ. The focus of the evening was "The Cross and Everyday Life". Given my question from opportunity #1 and tug-of-war in the midst of the end of the semester business, this intense and focused time could not have come at a better time. David Platt, the pastor who leads this time of teaching, adequately describes the 6+ hours as trying to drink from a fire hydrant, advising to try to keep up and process later. To say the least, I have a good bit of processing left to do, but there was a key point from the first teaching segment that connected with this resonating question. And, really, I'm still trying to wrap my mind completely around this point.
His point (one of many...) was that so often when we think of the cross and our salvation, we focus on the concept of Christ dying for our sins...with emphasis on ourselves. But, the cross is not ultimately about me...it's all about the uniquely qualified and sinless sacrifice that was the full expression of God's character and value, the obedience of Christ to God to die a substitutionary death so that I/we can experience and access God for all eternity. Thus, I am the beneficiary of Christ's obedience to God; yes, He took my place and His blood covers my sin...but, He didn't do it for me, He did it in obedience so that His name could be glorified.
My finite mind cannot grasp on to the full magnitude of this foundational act of obedience. Yet, as I/we are called to be Christlike...does this not then imply such full and radical obedience to the commands He has given me/us through His Word? As this first teaching segment closed, we heard from those who serve in highly persecuted areas...where Christianity goes against the laws of the country. One thing the man said was that it is simple...we need to go back to THE Book...God's Word to instruct our daily living.
So, connecting these two questions/concepts...strategic and intentional impact for the Kingdom is a result of understanding a fraction of what the cross means to our daily lives reflecting Christlike obedience to the instructions given to me/us in His Word.
This is no light matter...it is one to be covered in prayer daily, to seek His Word with a hunger and desire to hide it in my/your heart, and to ask God to guide us step by step into radical obedience of His commands in the normal routines of everyday life.
(Thankfully, the remaining sessions focused in on the 'how'...so, much to process for application.)
Thursday, February 13, 2014
Developing Strengths (in times of 'weakness')
First, a little background: StrengthsFinder 2.0 is an assessment tool I have utilized or participated in for probably 7-8 years. It identifies your top five "signature themes" that, with intentional effort, skill development, and knowledge acquisition, develop into personal areas of strength (the ability to consistently deliver a positive outcome to a context with the applied talent/skills/knowledge). It has been proven to be a reliable and valid instrument of assessment, and millions have taken this assessment from the Gallup organization.
Ok, now that you have the context (in case you were not familiar with this tool), on to my aha moment of the week. I get the opportunity to teach Strengths each Spring with my CALS Leadership Institute students; this semester is no exception. However, this month I also am in the midst of teaching a Strengths & Spiritual Gifts course at Westside (my church). Each time I teach or do an exercise with Strengths, I typically gain a new nugget of insight to one of my own top five signature themes. This particular combination of teaching this time around brought about an aha moment regarding my "Learner" Signature Theme...perhaps you can connect with it also (even if Learner is not in your top five).
The "Learner" Signature Theme manifests itself for me in its emphasis on the process of learning. I won't get in to how my other thematic areas overlap with this theme, but in general a "learner" is indifferent to the content and more interested in the general process of going from ignorance to competence with whatever topic is at hand. It can be a short assignment or a longer, in-depth project; as long as I am allowed the space to learn and process through the information I am a happy camper. Just be careful to specify how much you want to know if you ask about a topic I've been reading up on :). This is one of the reasons I enjoy higher education, and probably why I have always enjoyed school (especially when given the freedom re: learning process).
Yet, despite knowing and understanding this about myself in the context of educational opportunities and information, I never applied this to my own personal development. I often get frustrated with myself because I (unrealistically) would like to do things "once and for all"...completing a task or coming to a realization and ideally never having to re-learn a lessen. I fully understood that I typically have to re-learn content as a refresher for teaching due to the constant flow of new information we have today; but have failed to appreciate that fact in the personal context. How easily we forget the lessens He has taught us over time...
So, as I was thinking through my top five this week, I came to the question of why am I fighting my learner/process-orientation in my personal development? Just like there is only One who is perfect, there is only a sole instance of 'once and for all'...the decision to follow Christ and accept His gift of salvation through His death, burial, and resurrection. Beyond that, He has our backs. Even when we fall back into temptation, He is there waiting for us to call upon His name. Even when we forget the Source of our success, He is waiting for us to return to Him in humble thanksgiving. And, with One perfect Savior and one decision, that means everything else is a process.
So, why fight it?...Embrace it. Every opportunity, every minute of every day, is part of a process of learning and growing closer to Him. That process may (ok...it will) have high points, slow points, perhaps unexpected turns, etc. But, that's life...a journey, a process, a slow & steady or fast & furious adventure of learning His plan for each of our lives. For me, this means maximizing my "Learner" strength to approach each day with an open mind and heart, anticipating what He wants to teach me and where He wants to guide me. And, applying my 'learner' tendencies to the Word...what better book to dive in to for consistently new insight!?!? Easy? No...but we are not called to a life of luxury. We are called to be ambassadors of Christ!
2 Corinthians 5:16-21
Ok, now that you have the context (in case you were not familiar with this tool), on to my aha moment of the week. I get the opportunity to teach Strengths each Spring with my CALS Leadership Institute students; this semester is no exception. However, this month I also am in the midst of teaching a Strengths & Spiritual Gifts course at Westside (my church). Each time I teach or do an exercise with Strengths, I typically gain a new nugget of insight to one of my own top five signature themes. This particular combination of teaching this time around brought about an aha moment regarding my "Learner" Signature Theme...perhaps you can connect with it also (even if Learner is not in your top five).
The "Learner" Signature Theme manifests itself for me in its emphasis on the process of learning. I won't get in to how my other thematic areas overlap with this theme, but in general a "learner" is indifferent to the content and more interested in the general process of going from ignorance to competence with whatever topic is at hand. It can be a short assignment or a longer, in-depth project; as long as I am allowed the space to learn and process through the information I am a happy camper. Just be careful to specify how much you want to know if you ask about a topic I've been reading up on :). This is one of the reasons I enjoy higher education, and probably why I have always enjoyed school (especially when given the freedom re: learning process).
Yet, despite knowing and understanding this about myself in the context of educational opportunities and information, I never applied this to my own personal development. I often get frustrated with myself because I (unrealistically) would like to do things "once and for all"...completing a task or coming to a realization and ideally never having to re-learn a lessen. I fully understood that I typically have to re-learn content as a refresher for teaching due to the constant flow of new information we have today; but have failed to appreciate that fact in the personal context. How easily we forget the lessens He has taught us over time...
So, as I was thinking through my top five this week, I came to the question of why am I fighting my learner/process-orientation in my personal development? Just like there is only One who is perfect, there is only a sole instance of 'once and for all'...the decision to follow Christ and accept His gift of salvation through His death, burial, and resurrection. Beyond that, He has our backs. Even when we fall back into temptation, He is there waiting for us to call upon His name. Even when we forget the Source of our success, He is waiting for us to return to Him in humble thanksgiving. And, with One perfect Savior and one decision, that means everything else is a process.
So, why fight it?...Embrace it. Every opportunity, every minute of every day, is part of a process of learning and growing closer to Him. That process may (ok...it will) have high points, slow points, perhaps unexpected turns, etc. But, that's life...a journey, a process, a slow & steady or fast & furious adventure of learning His plan for each of our lives. For me, this means maximizing my "Learner" strength to approach each day with an open mind and heart, anticipating what He wants to teach me and where He wants to guide me. And, applying my 'learner' tendencies to the Word...what better book to dive in to for consistently new insight!?!? Easy? No...but we are not called to a life of luxury. We are called to be ambassadors of Christ!
2 Corinthians 5:16-21
"So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come:a The old has gone, the new is here! All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God. God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God."
So, what are your top five? How are you intentionally applying them to your personal growth? Interested, but not sure where to start? Let me know...and we'll get you going!
Wednesday, January 15, 2014
Time + Vocation + Ministry...
Do you ever wonder what God is up to in your life? You know...those times when you get really passionate about specific things and wonder what it's preparing you for in the future? I have to think that I'm not alone in this inquiring mentality of the day to day. Sometimes it makes me question if I'm listening enough instead of talking/asking; other times it makes me step back to see the possibilities from the different pieces coming together. My latest contemplation comes from my increasing excitement as I prepare to teach a short LifeChange course in February at my church, which will cover using our strengths and spiritual gifts. Naturally, as I plan (and pray that I get a few folks to join me for the course), I am evaluating how I am using my strengths and gifts through my commitment of time, my vocation, and in ministry opportunities...here's what I've been thinking about.
Time: Am I truly being wise with my time? Am I wasting time in places where I could be more productive? What distractions do I need to eliminate? Am I being intentional about what I spend time on, or who I spend time with? I'd like to think I could answer these questions in a pretty positive manner; however, I know that this precious commodity of time is easily shifted when various demands arise. And, if something takes longer than expected, what is going to get bumped and how does that reflect my priorities? With a full plate of commitments, this is often a struggle in balance for me; however, if my time is going to my top priority then I have to trust that the rest will work itself out accordingly.
Vocation: Colossians 3:23 is clear in stating that everything we do we are to do it for the Lord. So, how am I using my strengths and gifts as a leadership educator? Can others see Him in me based upon the way I carry myself? How can I better reflect Him in my work? What skills am I developing through my vocation that could also be used in ministry?
Ministry: Am I serving in the areas which He has gifted me? How can I encourage others to engage in joyful service out of love, not out of just a sense of responsibility or task? How can I further develop my gifting?
I am excited to potentially get to know some folks at church that I may otherwise not meet, and allow God to use me to encourage their gift development and get plugged in to serve with their strengths and gifts! Every time I have the opportunity to cross my passion for leadership training and development with my faith, my heart is happy! I often go back and forth with the question of whether this is a combination for continued ministry service through my vocation or if He's preparing me for something in the future that would entail a form of vocational ministry through leadership training and development. Only time will tell...in the meantime, I can't wait for February's class and love the opportunity for self-reflection that comes with leadership education.
Romans 8:28; Proverbs 3:5-6; Jeremiah 29:11-13
Time: Am I truly being wise with my time? Am I wasting time in places where I could be more productive? What distractions do I need to eliminate? Am I being intentional about what I spend time on, or who I spend time with? I'd like to think I could answer these questions in a pretty positive manner; however, I know that this precious commodity of time is easily shifted when various demands arise. And, if something takes longer than expected, what is going to get bumped and how does that reflect my priorities? With a full plate of commitments, this is often a struggle in balance for me; however, if my time is going to my top priority then I have to trust that the rest will work itself out accordingly.
Vocation: Colossians 3:23 is clear in stating that everything we do we are to do it for the Lord. So, how am I using my strengths and gifts as a leadership educator? Can others see Him in me based upon the way I carry myself? How can I better reflect Him in my work? What skills am I developing through my vocation that could also be used in ministry?
Ministry: Am I serving in the areas which He has gifted me? How can I encourage others to engage in joyful service out of love, not out of just a sense of responsibility or task? How can I further develop my gifting?
I am excited to potentially get to know some folks at church that I may otherwise not meet, and allow God to use me to encourage their gift development and get plugged in to serve with their strengths and gifts! Every time I have the opportunity to cross my passion for leadership training and development with my faith, my heart is happy! I often go back and forth with the question of whether this is a combination for continued ministry service through my vocation or if He's preparing me for something in the future that would entail a form of vocational ministry through leadership training and development. Only time will tell...in the meantime, I can't wait for February's class and love the opportunity for self-reflection that comes with leadership education.
Romans 8:28; Proverbs 3:5-6; Jeremiah 29:11-13
Thursday, November 14, 2013
"Too" Perspectives
I was recently having a conversation with some colleagues regarding our responses to "How are you?" (which is such a common courtesy question these days). Often, we acknowledge this question as its typically intended common courtesy with a quick answer of "good," "fine," or "busy" and are on our way. For those individuals asking that we have a bit more of a personal relationship with, we can add to that answer a short description of what is going on; however, it tends to be with somewhat of an exhausted tone. And, for those who are oh-so-lucky to be our closest friends and family this question can turn in to a full blown complaint session or mini counseling session of how in the world we ended up with so many things on our plate. Quite simply, we are too busy and too stressed to enjoy the commitments we made...most likely out of original excitement for each individual project! So, when exactly did our enthusiasm for working on various projects turn into an exhausting to-do list? Perhaps when we failed to prioritize, said 'yes' one too many times, were offered that amazing opportunity that we just could not pass up, or set some absurd expectations of what I 'should' be doing at this point in life. Albeit there will be some external factors connected to stress levels and responsibilities, the one we can control is our personal choices of what we engage in and how we react to these matters of life.
This thought process came about as I sat in our church's prayer garden watching a beautiful sunset this past Monday night. On a scale of 1-10, with 9 being the point in which I would send out a message to some friends to pray for me and either cry, scream, or go buy some chocolate, I was at about an 8.5. Well, rather than doing any of the previous, I decided that going to pray in our prayer garden would be a better option in the 10 minutes I had between arriving at the church and when FAITH outreach would begin. I was stressed because I had a paper due that day that was not yet done, and growing with frustration for my inability to get all of my ideas and thoughts onto paper in a cohesive manner (and not in my typical write, reflect, revisit, final edition method I like to operate in for assignments). I was feeling guilty for taking a day out of my long weekend to spend some time in the kitchen rather than working on this paper; in hindsight, I probably should have taken time to write on Friday and then have kitchen time as a celebration. Regardless, I had not accomplished all that I wanted to on the long weekend, and knowing the busy week ahead, was feeling a bit overwhelmed. And, when I don't have the time to put into something I care about, I just get frustrated with myself and stressed out. So, what I realized while sitting there for those 10 minutes, was that I was being ridiculously hard on myself. This past semester, God has been teaching me SO much through my coursework regarding connections between my leadership work and missions; I was trying to process that dynamic along with my assignment at the same time. And for this internal processor, it was mental overload! My enthusiasm for those connections was rapidly decreasing as the minutes drew closer to the time I wanted to submit the assignment (aka before heading to the church). It was amazing to me what a difference those 10 minutes made on my perspective for the rest of the evening and now week. I finished the assignment after returning home from FAITH, and had a very focused work day on Tuesday. The more I think about this "too stressed" or "too busy" perspective, I have come to a few things I need to focus on as the semester's peak deadline weeks are approaching:
1. Remember that I have chosen to be "off balance-on purpose"! My schedule should reflect my priorities and values, and I should fully embrace those choices!
2. Don't let the amount of things to be done impact my enthusiasm for the projects as a whole! Some things may not be glamorous, but need to be done to reach the original purpose that engaged me in the first place!
3. When someone asks me how I am doing, respond by sharing something that I am excited to be working on instead of an exhausted and quick reply. (Seriously, call me out on this one!)
As leaders, we model the way for those around us; imagine if we began realizing our limitations based on our priorities, expecting quality and passion rather than quantity accomplished, and kept the :too blessed to be stressed' mantra in mind...how much more focused and productive could we be? It's going to take some (ok, a lot of) intentional effort, and some trial and error to get the off-balance to our liking...but, it's doable!
This thought process came about as I sat in our church's prayer garden watching a beautiful sunset this past Monday night. On a scale of 1-10, with 9 being the point in which I would send out a message to some friends to pray for me and either cry, scream, or go buy some chocolate, I was at about an 8.5. Well, rather than doing any of the previous, I decided that going to pray in our prayer garden would be a better option in the 10 minutes I had between arriving at the church and when FAITH outreach would begin. I was stressed because I had a paper due that day that was not yet done, and growing with frustration for my inability to get all of my ideas and thoughts onto paper in a cohesive manner (and not in my typical write, reflect, revisit, final edition method I like to operate in for assignments). I was feeling guilty for taking a day out of my long weekend to spend some time in the kitchen rather than working on this paper; in hindsight, I probably should have taken time to write on Friday and then have kitchen time as a celebration. Regardless, I had not accomplished all that I wanted to on the long weekend, and knowing the busy week ahead, was feeling a bit overwhelmed. And, when I don't have the time to put into something I care about, I just get frustrated with myself and stressed out. So, what I realized while sitting there for those 10 minutes, was that I was being ridiculously hard on myself. This past semester, God has been teaching me SO much through my coursework regarding connections between my leadership work and missions; I was trying to process that dynamic along with my assignment at the same time. And for this internal processor, it was mental overload! My enthusiasm for those connections was rapidly decreasing as the minutes drew closer to the time I wanted to submit the assignment (aka before heading to the church). It was amazing to me what a difference those 10 minutes made on my perspective for the rest of the evening and now week. I finished the assignment after returning home from FAITH, and had a very focused work day on Tuesday. The more I think about this "too stressed" or "too busy" perspective, I have come to a few things I need to focus on as the semester's peak deadline weeks are approaching:
1. Remember that I have chosen to be "off balance-on purpose"! My schedule should reflect my priorities and values, and I should fully embrace those choices!
2. Don't let the amount of things to be done impact my enthusiasm for the projects as a whole! Some things may not be glamorous, but need to be done to reach the original purpose that engaged me in the first place!
3. When someone asks me how I am doing, respond by sharing something that I am excited to be working on instead of an exhausted and quick reply. (Seriously, call me out on this one!)
As leaders, we model the way for those around us; imagine if we began realizing our limitations based on our priorities, expecting quality and passion rather than quantity accomplished, and kept the :too blessed to be stressed' mantra in mind...how much more focused and productive could we be? It's going to take some (ok, a lot of) intentional effort, and some trial and error to get the off-balance to our liking...but, it's doable!
Monday, August 19, 2013
Caution: Internal Processor Near
It's rather amusing for me to think about how various personality/character types are perceived by others. As a leadership instructor, I get to see these nuances first hand through my students when we do various personality assessments and have these conversations. And, not just amusing as they figure out why some people are the way they are, but also a fascinating reminder of how each of us need to take note of how others operate, communicate, etc. on a day to day basis. For me, I also differ a little with context; meaning that I may respond differently if I am in a context of leading others than I would if we're friends discussing personal matters. This connects to my tendency to flip on my "extrovert" switch...well, as much of an extrovert as I can be...when in large group that I would like to network with, teaching or facilitating, etc. However, on a personal level I tend to have more "introvert" tendencies. As I have been thinking through some things over the past few days (an update on that is in the works), I realized once again that being an internal processor can come across the wrong way (disconnected, arrogance, not caring, etc.) in some contexts. So, here is my little list of three things you should know about working/conversing with an internal processor such as yours truly:
1. Send information in advance. Time for reviewing information and processing it is of utmost importance to the internal processor. I do not do well with information provided at the moment feedback is desired; this is the best way ensure that I will be quiet in a meeting (and potentially not fully engaged because I will be busy looking through the materials instead of truly listening to what you have to say). A day or two in advance is typically just right, depending on the amount of information to be reviewed.
2. If you would like my opinion, please ask. Just as it's important to send the information in advance for processing, asking is the key to receiving feedback from an internal processor. We care...really, quite a bit (especially if provided with info in advance). I am not particularly forthcoming with my personal thoughts in meetings. The external processors are plenty good at sharing opinions readily, and if my opinion aligns with something already mentioned I will not repeat what has been said. If I have something new to add value to the conversation, I will certainly do so; however, many times the meeting facilitator needs to prompt the internally inclined folks (perhaps even to just provide the opportunity to interject among a group of external processors). So, ask away and insight will be offered.
3. Trust fuels the depth of feedback. This may be common for external processors also, but I feel it is particularly common for internal processors. My relationship with a group and the level of trust I have for the individuals involved will directly correlate to the depth of feedback offered. Typically, only those in my closest circle know the full extent of what I am thinking or feeling in a given situation. Even then, it may take a while for that full depth to come through. So, patience is essential if you truly desire the full opinion of a situation.
One of the most difficult things about being an internal processor, I believe, is when I have taken the time to thoroughly think through a situation or topic and then either am too late to offer my thoughts (the group of external processors has already pushed through the topic) or desire to contribute more, but information was not provided in advance to review. Yes, simply frustrating.
So, to wrap this post up...remember to consider your internal processing colleagues/friends when approaching a situation in which you desire their feedback. Then, take a cue from the three bits above. These are my personal bits of observation/advice...take them as such. What would you add to the list? What would you want to know from the perspective of an internal processor?
1. Send information in advance. Time for reviewing information and processing it is of utmost importance to the internal processor. I do not do well with information provided at the moment feedback is desired; this is the best way ensure that I will be quiet in a meeting (and potentially not fully engaged because I will be busy looking through the materials instead of truly listening to what you have to say). A day or two in advance is typically just right, depending on the amount of information to be reviewed.
2. If you would like my opinion, please ask. Just as it's important to send the information in advance for processing, asking is the key to receiving feedback from an internal processor. We care...really, quite a bit (especially if provided with info in advance). I am not particularly forthcoming with my personal thoughts in meetings. The external processors are plenty good at sharing opinions readily, and if my opinion aligns with something already mentioned I will not repeat what has been said. If I have something new to add value to the conversation, I will certainly do so; however, many times the meeting facilitator needs to prompt the internally inclined folks (perhaps even to just provide the opportunity to interject among a group of external processors). So, ask away and insight will be offered.
3. Trust fuels the depth of feedback. This may be common for external processors also, but I feel it is particularly common for internal processors. My relationship with a group and the level of trust I have for the individuals involved will directly correlate to the depth of feedback offered. Typically, only those in my closest circle know the full extent of what I am thinking or feeling in a given situation. Even then, it may take a while for that full depth to come through. So, patience is essential if you truly desire the full opinion of a situation.
One of the most difficult things about being an internal processor, I believe, is when I have taken the time to thoroughly think through a situation or topic and then either am too late to offer my thoughts (the group of external processors has already pushed through the topic) or desire to contribute more, but information was not provided in advance to review. Yes, simply frustrating.
So, to wrap this post up...remember to consider your internal processing colleagues/friends when approaching a situation in which you desire their feedback. Then, take a cue from the three bits above. These are my personal bits of observation/advice...take them as such. What would you add to the list? What would you want to know from the perspective of an internal processor?
Saturday, July 20, 2013
Modeling Core Values
After being on the road for a conference and time at home in Illinois over the past two weeks, it is good to be home and catching up on life. As such, I am sorting through my notes from the Association of Leadership Educators (ALE) Conference. I must say that this year's speakers were the best we have had since I began attending this conference 5 years ago. Ted Thomas spoke to the model utilized in training and development at the Army Command and Staff College, and Ira Chaleff spoke to the art of followership. We have had good speakers, but this year was different; our speakers did not just provide us with outstanding keynote messages, they modeled the way for lifelong learning by being engaged throughout the entire conference. I would imagine it is safe to say that a typical keynote speaker would come in, stay the day of their keynote, then head back home or on to their next speaking engagement. It was enlightening to see our keynotes truly living out the messages they shared, which both included a mention to continuous learning and development. Another great aspect of this year's conference were the follow-up sessions with each of the keynotes; a more laid-back setting where they continued sharing and answering questions from those of us who attended.
One key message that I walked away with from our speakers focused on the concept of neutrality with our core values. Often as an instructor, you are advised to be 'neutral' as a facilitator of learning in a classroom; I have questioned and struggled with such a notion. Can one truly be neutral if we are discussing leadership, which ultimately reflects one's personal core values? I received a refreshing answer from one of our speakers on this matter. Essentially...Neutrality in contexts where personal values are central is non-existent; there is only speaking honestly and with integrity to the values you hold true, with respect and a listening ear for others whose thoughts and values may differ. It's amazing the depth of conversations that can be facilitated when there is a common agreement to this nature; sometimes agreeing to disagree, but trying to understand an alternate perspective proves to be a rich experience for all involved.
I feel so blessed that my current group of students get this; it is often a turning point for decent class conversations to turn into great conversations. When it occurs, everyone (including myself) can walk away with a deeper appreciation of their personal values and how they direct the decisions we each make daily (big decisions and small decisions). And, although there is a fine line as an instructor for expressing personal values, I believe it would be counterproductive to expect something of my students that I am not willing to model as an instructor. After all, when students see an instructor holding true to their core values, I think it gives them permission and confidence to do the same.
One key message that I walked away with from our speakers focused on the concept of neutrality with our core values. Often as an instructor, you are advised to be 'neutral' as a facilitator of learning in a classroom; I have questioned and struggled with such a notion. Can one truly be neutral if we are discussing leadership, which ultimately reflects one's personal core values? I received a refreshing answer from one of our speakers on this matter. Essentially...Neutrality in contexts where personal values are central is non-existent; there is only speaking honestly and with integrity to the values you hold true, with respect and a listening ear for others whose thoughts and values may differ. It's amazing the depth of conversations that can be facilitated when there is a common agreement to this nature; sometimes agreeing to disagree, but trying to understand an alternate perspective proves to be a rich experience for all involved.
I feel so blessed that my current group of students get this; it is often a turning point for decent class conversations to turn into great conversations. When it occurs, everyone (including myself) can walk away with a deeper appreciation of their personal values and how they direct the decisions we each make daily (big decisions and small decisions). And, although there is a fine line as an instructor for expressing personal values, I believe it would be counterproductive to expect something of my students that I am not willing to model as an instructor. After all, when students see an instructor holding true to their core values, I think it gives them permission and confidence to do the same.
Thursday, July 4, 2013
Trust the Process...Imperfect Progress
In a world so attuned to instant gratification, 'trust the process' can seem to be more of a test of patience than its original intent of growth through experience and reflection. One of the aspects I enjoy most about working in leadership education is the opportunity to initiate and spur on the process of personal development in my students. Likewise, sharing in my students' processes of growth also is a continuous reminder for my own personal development. The irony of it, though, is that even though it's is my job - I observe, I listen, I teach, I give advice to help my students figure out how to capitalize on their strengths and make quality connections to lead others toward a meaningful goal- sometimes I get stuck. This past semester, I decided it was time to go through the assignments with my students (I like to do this every so often to make sure that I am not asking of them what I would not do myself and ensure it is a realistic assignment); however, I should note that I typically do not share my personal process with my students outside of examples shared while teaching. And, after making a "New Year's resolution" of sorts to be more vulnerable and focus on my own development this was a great tie in of personal and professional efforts. How is this different than past times when I have gone through the assignments with my students? The last time I did this, I focused on just the professional realm; this time, I opened the door wide open for some tough but needed reflection in all areas...personal (including spiritual) & professional. I never imagined the depth of the task I was about to take on...one that I know by 'trusting the process' I will be grateful at the end, but probably often question 'why' during the process. After all, a year is a long time...but, it offered some flexibility for selective focus, perhaps some avoidance and the general craziness of life. So, it's July...here's the midterm evaluation and what's coming up:
1. Realization: Studying leadership offers many, many opportunities for self-evaluation (even 360 evaluation); however, in engaging in these processes or activities of this nature over the years, I can now see that I would always get to a certain point, then repeat that cycle.
2. Opportune timing: In the midst of wrapping up the spring semester, thinking about summertime last year (first mission trip to Romania), and starting to take an organizational leadership class...the text for this summer class was identified. Immunity to Change...this was a book that a few colleagues have recommended and touted as on of the most impactful processes they have ever gone through for personal development. Obviously, as individuals I respect, I was curious to read this book. And, although many of my peers were skeptical of the process, I decided this was the perfect opportunity to seek feedback and engage in some deeper personal development. (Gulp) Trust me when I say that it is one of the most humbling things to sit down and write people to ask for honest feedback on how I can be better. At the moment, I am receiving this feedback from those I sent the request to...very enlightening! Looking forward to reviewing that feedback and making some lifetime changes. The process of the 'immunity to change' exercise goes beyond the surface level behavioral changes I have typically made and is challenging me to look at what adaptive or mindset changes need to me bade that are the roots of the behaviors I have addressed through previous cycles of personal leadership development.
3. Faith factor: I have trained myself to go to a neutral zone when it comes to personal leadership development; as an instructor, it is a mindset I try to go to to remain open to the various perspectives my students bring to the classroom safe zone to facilitate the learning process. However, when it comes to my personal development...as much as I could try, my faith is an integral and inseparable component of growth. So, with the realization that I get to a point and repeat that cycle, my question then becomes "What is stopping me from going beyond that point?" As a follower of Christ, this also begs the question "What am I holding on to or not surrendering (or remotely dealing with) that may be keeping me from a deeper relationship with my Savior?" And, as an internal processor this also translates to "What have I stuffed down inside or tried to work out on my own that needs to be vocalized?"
All I know at the moment is that trusting this process over the next couple of months may be one of the toughest things I have done on a personal level. This process can be raw, vulnerable, awkward, touchy-feely (which I am so not good at), involve difficult conversations, etc. It may involve asking many 'whys'...which will then (hopefully) turn into 'hows' (not as in 'how did this occur?', but 'how can God use this?'). So, why do it? Because I know that if I don't, I will remain in a cycle of development that continues to address behaviors instead of taking a leap of faith to dig deep and blast through a barrier I have built for myself. And, unless you deal with the past/present barriers, you can never reach the depth of the future plans God has in store for your life. So, I am trusting in the process and coveting prayers as I take on this peak of the process. I pray that as He continues to 'unsettle me' through this process, I grow stronger, bolder, and more open to how He can use me through imperfect progress.
1. Realization: Studying leadership offers many, many opportunities for self-evaluation (even 360 evaluation); however, in engaging in these processes or activities of this nature over the years, I can now see that I would always get to a certain point, then repeat that cycle.
2. Opportune timing: In the midst of wrapping up the spring semester, thinking about summertime last year (first mission trip to Romania), and starting to take an organizational leadership class...the text for this summer class was identified. Immunity to Change...this was a book that a few colleagues have recommended and touted as on of the most impactful processes they have ever gone through for personal development. Obviously, as individuals I respect, I was curious to read this book. And, although many of my peers were skeptical of the process, I decided this was the perfect opportunity to seek feedback and engage in some deeper personal development. (Gulp) Trust me when I say that it is one of the most humbling things to sit down and write people to ask for honest feedback on how I can be better. At the moment, I am receiving this feedback from those I sent the request to...very enlightening! Looking forward to reviewing that feedback and making some lifetime changes. The process of the 'immunity to change' exercise goes beyond the surface level behavioral changes I have typically made and is challenging me to look at what adaptive or mindset changes need to me bade that are the roots of the behaviors I have addressed through previous cycles of personal leadership development.
3. Faith factor: I have trained myself to go to a neutral zone when it comes to personal leadership development; as an instructor, it is a mindset I try to go to to remain open to the various perspectives my students bring to the classroom safe zone to facilitate the learning process. However, when it comes to my personal development...as much as I could try, my faith is an integral and inseparable component of growth. So, with the realization that I get to a point and repeat that cycle, my question then becomes "What is stopping me from going beyond that point?" As a follower of Christ, this also begs the question "What am I holding on to or not surrendering (or remotely dealing with) that may be keeping me from a deeper relationship with my Savior?" And, as an internal processor this also translates to "What have I stuffed down inside or tried to work out on my own that needs to be vocalized?"
All I know at the moment is that trusting this process over the next couple of months may be one of the toughest things I have done on a personal level. This process can be raw, vulnerable, awkward, touchy-feely (which I am so not good at), involve difficult conversations, etc. It may involve asking many 'whys'...which will then (hopefully) turn into 'hows' (not as in 'how did this occur?', but 'how can God use this?'). So, why do it? Because I know that if I don't, I will remain in a cycle of development that continues to address behaviors instead of taking a leap of faith to dig deep and blast through a barrier I have built for myself. And, unless you deal with the past/present barriers, you can never reach the depth of the future plans God has in store for your life. So, I am trusting in the process and coveting prayers as I take on this peak of the process. I pray that as He continues to 'unsettle me' through this process, I grow stronger, bolder, and more open to how He can use me through imperfect progress.
Friday, June 21, 2013
Mentoring = Intentional Investment
Mentoring is on my mind, and after seeing about 5 articles come across my path within the last week, I figured it was time to get a few of my thoughts into words. The tug-of-war in my mind has focused on the intent of mentoring and its differentiation from a relationship. I think there is a fine line between relationship and mentorship, and for me that line boils down to intentionality and expectations. Can both occur simultaneously? I think so. And, I think relationship is built through mentorship. But without intentionality, a relationship grows without the mentoring dimension. Is there value in that relationship? Absolutely! Every relationship is not designed to be a mentorship. It is often said that our lives should include those investing in us, our peers whom we encourage and are encouraged by, and those we are investing in. So, my thoughts focused in on the former and latter of that trio: who is investing in me, and who am I investing in?
First, who is investing in me? I believe that much of my life has been marked with unintentional mentors - those who have come alongside of me during a specific time, and modeled the way while encouraging me to follow. I followed because I saw in them something that I desired to develop, whether personally or professionally. I am grateful for those unintentional mentors...sometimes I don't think I would have made it to a particular goal without their guidance and listening ears (allowing me to vent or process things...without the judgement that I was imposing, spilled out from frustration). I am grateful, also, that those individuals (which I still admire) are now colleagues that still (bless their hearts) put up with me. And, I am also blessed to have a couple of relationships with women who treat me as an extension of their family, pray for me, and always want to know how life is going. Blessings, sheer blessings into my life! However, what I realized is that I have been a little hypocritical with my students; I encourage them to seek out mentors and be intentional about meeting with them, but have not done so myself. I have been happy with those unintentional mentors, but have not intentionally sought out one or two folks to challenge and mentor me. I think it is about time to change that; I'm not sure who just yet, but have a handful of folks running through my mind that I admire for various reasons. My intent is to set up an agreement to meet monthly with each, making the commitment to connect for a year then reflect on how we're doing in regard to intent and growth. I cherish the unintentional mentors in my life, but I know this is an area I need to seek for growth and development.
That leads me to the other component, who am I investing in? I think I have hesitated to commit to or seek out individuals to invest in for the simple fact that I had not sought out the personal investment relationship before, rationalizing that I may not be equipped to mentor someone on that level. The irony in that statement is quite simple; we tend to model the behavior we have been shown. I feel like I have tried to unintentionally be a mentor to my students over the past few years. One thing I have discovered over the past few years, is that those unintentional mentoring opportunities increase as the gap in age increases. Some students you just connect with better than others, but given the small group of amazing students I am privileged to work with, I feel blessed to learn about each of their lives and aspirations, and encourage or invest (intentionally or unintentionally) in them where I am able. I look forward to continuing to invest in my students, and may look for opportunities in the next couple of years to intentionally invest in an individual that may seek out mentorship.
As I have come to the point of desiring to intentionally seek out individuals to invest in me and invest in others, I realize how much I wish I had been more intentional about this earlier. As one who internalizes things, I often sit quietly and observe others while making mental notes (or actual notes) of those tidbits of advice and nuggets of wisdom. How many opportunities have I missed to gain a greater depth of understanding from someone I admired by simply accepting that unintentional approach (at times out of the thought they he/she would be too busy to take time for just me)? The great thing about mentoring, though, is the it is never too late to begin seeking intentional relationships! If you could ask anyone to invest in you, who would it be? Is there someone in your sphere of influence that you could invest in more? What's stopping you from asking someone to coffee/tea? Join me...commit, be intentional, and make the investment of time! My hunch is that this is the beginning of some great relationships to come through mentoring and being mentored!
First, who is investing in me? I believe that much of my life has been marked with unintentional mentors - those who have come alongside of me during a specific time, and modeled the way while encouraging me to follow. I followed because I saw in them something that I desired to develop, whether personally or professionally. I am grateful for those unintentional mentors...sometimes I don't think I would have made it to a particular goal without their guidance and listening ears (allowing me to vent or process things...without the judgement that I was imposing, spilled out from frustration). I am grateful, also, that those individuals (which I still admire) are now colleagues that still (bless their hearts) put up with me. And, I am also blessed to have a couple of relationships with women who treat me as an extension of their family, pray for me, and always want to know how life is going. Blessings, sheer blessings into my life! However, what I realized is that I have been a little hypocritical with my students; I encourage them to seek out mentors and be intentional about meeting with them, but have not done so myself. I have been happy with those unintentional mentors, but have not intentionally sought out one or two folks to challenge and mentor me. I think it is about time to change that; I'm not sure who just yet, but have a handful of folks running through my mind that I admire for various reasons. My intent is to set up an agreement to meet monthly with each, making the commitment to connect for a year then reflect on how we're doing in regard to intent and growth. I cherish the unintentional mentors in my life, but I know this is an area I need to seek for growth and development.
That leads me to the other component, who am I investing in? I think I have hesitated to commit to or seek out individuals to invest in for the simple fact that I had not sought out the personal investment relationship before, rationalizing that I may not be equipped to mentor someone on that level. The irony in that statement is quite simple; we tend to model the behavior we have been shown. I feel like I have tried to unintentionally be a mentor to my students over the past few years. One thing I have discovered over the past few years, is that those unintentional mentoring opportunities increase as the gap in age increases. Some students you just connect with better than others, but given the small group of amazing students I am privileged to work with, I feel blessed to learn about each of their lives and aspirations, and encourage or invest (intentionally or unintentionally) in them where I am able. I look forward to continuing to invest in my students, and may look for opportunities in the next couple of years to intentionally invest in an individual that may seek out mentorship.
As I have come to the point of desiring to intentionally seek out individuals to invest in me and invest in others, I realize how much I wish I had been more intentional about this earlier. As one who internalizes things, I often sit quietly and observe others while making mental notes (or actual notes) of those tidbits of advice and nuggets of wisdom. How many opportunities have I missed to gain a greater depth of understanding from someone I admired by simply accepting that unintentional approach (at times out of the thought they he/she would be too busy to take time for just me)? The great thing about mentoring, though, is the it is never too late to begin seeking intentional relationships! If you could ask anyone to invest in you, who would it be? Is there someone in your sphere of influence that you could invest in more? What's stopping you from asking someone to coffee/tea? Join me...commit, be intentional, and make the investment of time! My hunch is that this is the beginning of some great relationships to come through mentoring and being mentored!
Sunday, April 21, 2013
Simply Influence
"Leadership is influence." - John Maxwell
In terms of leadership definitions, I don't think you can get much simpler than this tidbit from Maxwell. As an instructor and student of leadership, it is easy to get deep into the theoretical foundations of leadership, the complexities that can come with different styles of leadership, or the context of a leadership scenario. However, I have been attempting to have a focus on simplifying things this year...although the past month and a half have been a far cry from this effort. With the end of this crazy semester in sight, I am starting to refocus back on simplifying some areas of my life. Maxwell's simple message came to mind first when I thought about the aim to simplify leadership.
As much as I am an 'achiever' and enjoy crossing off various tasks from a to-do list, the relational side of leadership is a fascinating area of interest for me. It is in the relationships that you can get honest answers, get to the heart of a question to discover not just the 'what' but the 'why' for leadership. It is through relationships that moments of influence occur. It's the story of a young leader with a passion for developing women into community leaders, the story of personal struggle that lead to a career area he is pursuing with diligence to make a better path for others, and the story of a lifetime of work that continues to make a positive impact on those who read his books. Because as a leader or aspiring leader, we remember those stories and moments of influence more so than a particular theory or explanation. The stories I hear, the people I meet, and the aspirations of the students I teach...it is through these relationships, regardless of their length, that I see influence on my life. I have found that one of the ironies of teaching leadership to undergraduate students is that as much as I work with a group of students and hope to have a small, positive influence in their lives, I end up being influenced by each of them...their passions, energy, and zeal for life. Their influence on my life is reflected through my continued desire to be in a profession that consistently seeks to better others and self, as well as the cyclical nature of leadership development and learning in general. What can I say...I love my job! While case studies and phenomenal leaders are great to study, I find that a true connection to leadership and learning from a leader comes through those you choose to follow and allow to influence your life.
Bottom line: I think when you open yourself up to be influenced by others, you welcome moments of inspiration to be a better version of you, a better leader. It can be that simple.
In terms of leadership definitions, I don't think you can get much simpler than this tidbit from Maxwell. As an instructor and student of leadership, it is easy to get deep into the theoretical foundations of leadership, the complexities that can come with different styles of leadership, or the context of a leadership scenario. However, I have been attempting to have a focus on simplifying things this year...although the past month and a half have been a far cry from this effort. With the end of this crazy semester in sight, I am starting to refocus back on simplifying some areas of my life. Maxwell's simple message came to mind first when I thought about the aim to simplify leadership.
As much as I am an 'achiever' and enjoy crossing off various tasks from a to-do list, the relational side of leadership is a fascinating area of interest for me. It is in the relationships that you can get honest answers, get to the heart of a question to discover not just the 'what' but the 'why' for leadership. It is through relationships that moments of influence occur. It's the story of a young leader with a passion for developing women into community leaders, the story of personal struggle that lead to a career area he is pursuing with diligence to make a better path for others, and the story of a lifetime of work that continues to make a positive impact on those who read his books. Because as a leader or aspiring leader, we remember those stories and moments of influence more so than a particular theory or explanation. The stories I hear, the people I meet, and the aspirations of the students I teach...it is through these relationships, regardless of their length, that I see influence on my life. I have found that one of the ironies of teaching leadership to undergraduate students is that as much as I work with a group of students and hope to have a small, positive influence in their lives, I end up being influenced by each of them...their passions, energy, and zeal for life. Their influence on my life is reflected through my continued desire to be in a profession that consistently seeks to better others and self, as well as the cyclical nature of leadership development and learning in general. What can I say...I love my job! While case studies and phenomenal leaders are great to study, I find that a true connection to leadership and learning from a leader comes through those you choose to follow and allow to influence your life.
Bottom line: I think when you open yourself up to be influenced by others, you welcome moments of inspiration to be a better version of you, a better leader. It can be that simple.
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